Still Early Saturday 9/25/10- I feel like i should be on my knees groveling the way this man showed up. Looking all smug and like he knew it all. "want to tell me what happened" he said- no i dont want to tell you jackass, i just wanted to wake your ass up, make you drive down here so i can see the pretty face of yours. I was raped Jackass.....you knew before you came down that that's what this call that so rudley woke you up in the morning was about.
So tell me what lead up to this- ME: "I met 6 men thursday night" Det- "your were hanging around 6 men? by yourself?" ME: let me guess, i didnt get to finish my sentence but your telling me this is my fault. What is the matter with you?"
DET: I am just doing my job mam, i need to get some answers so I can investigate
ME: If you hadnt stopped and judged me already you would have those answers
At this point, the responding officer comes over and takes me away from the situation for a bit. He could tell I wasnt having any of this pompous Detective. He calmed me down and I was able to answer all questions
We then take some cars over to the house, as its only 2 blocks away. All of the men are still in the house, as well as my shoes, my underwear and my cell phone. I tell the police the rapist used a condom, they could find the wapper on the table next to the bed.
Police are able to find my phone and shoes and return them to me.
Police also recover and take as evidence my underwear from the floor, my attackers underwear from my bed, and a condom he was quick enough to stash into a cup of alcohol....im thinking hes done this before.
Im waiting outside, bystanders are walking by asking what happen, I flat out tell them I had been raped.
Officers bring out the mens id's for me to pick my attacker, they are all such old pictures i wasnt sure. I begged to go back in and indentify the son of a bitch- they finally let me. I enter the house, im told the others were sitting on the couch right next to him, but the only guy i saw was my rapist, sitting calmly and smugly, still with that little grin in the side of his mouth. I lunged at him but the officers caught me and took me back outside.
Next I am headed to the hospital with the initial responding officer to have a rape kit done....i am told the boys were all taken to the station, had samples taken , were questioned, etc.....I was even told an arrest would be made.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
The Kindness of Others
Early Saturday 9/25/10 - I am outside with no shoes, a perfect stranger stops by and asks what wrong. I told im I was raped. He immediately pulls out his phone and dials 911- he gets me on the line with dispatch. He then begins banging on the door, he wanted in so he could get the guy. His woman friend was also banging on the windows assuring me I would be ok. I get them to stop the banging and the door opens just slightly enough for one of the "men" to slip my purse out onto the sidewalk......my purse....did they really think that was what I was worried about. An off duty club security bouncer pulled up in his car and asked what we were doing. We told him waiting for police.....im not sure how long we waited but it felt like an eternity.
This security bouncer put me in his car, gave me his number, brought me and waited with me at the police station that was less that 2 blocks away for the police to show. The police finally came- The responding officer was the most amazing man. Never accusing, never judgmental. Unfortunately we couldnt do anything until the Detective showed up. So we waited, and waited and waited......Sorry to wake you up and make you do your job on the weekend Detective.
This security bouncer put me in his car, gave me his number, brought me and waited with me at the police station that was less that 2 blocks away for the police to show. The police finally came- The responding officer was the most amazing man. Never accusing, never judgmental. Unfortunately we couldnt do anything until the Detective showed up. So we waited, and waited and waited......Sorry to wake you up and make you do your job on the weekend Detective.
The Day of the Rape Part 2
Early Saturday, the morning of 9/25/10- I am walking alone to meet my friend. I am not scared to walk alone in that town, most are. I text my friend, he says hes at Pat Obriens, I start to make my way there, but im only at the corner of canal. I ask him to meet me there. He states he doesnt know where that is, but he is now at Huge Ass Beers tells me to go to his place in 2 minutes. I told him to come get me, he tells me he needs to take a shower and wants me at the house in 10 minutes. I met a nice man on my walk, he kept me company the whole way, took me right to the front door and went on his way as he lived a few blocks down.
I am sorry if you are looking for all the detail of the rape but i am not willing to divulge every detail so here is a brief shot at it. I wake up in my friends bed, back to the door. The man I thought was my friend climbs into bed with me and asks for sex. Thinking he was my friend and not opening my eyes i said yes and he went to get a condom. He comes back in the room, i still have my eyes closed, falling back asleep and he is on top of me. I feel his face and open my eyes.....it wasnt my friend....my friend had a beard.I had never actually met this man before, he was one of the group that flew in sometime on Friday. I shoved this man off of me grabbed my pants and ran to the bathroom.
My mind is racing, did this just happen. What the hell did he think he was doing. He came home with no one, he knew I wasnt there for him what made him think he could just sneak into bed with me? Who does this?
I get my act together and get up enough courage to come out of the bathroom....I seem him, ass naked walking back into is room. He looks back at me with that crooked smile i will never forget. I mmedately attack my rapist. I am throwing punches, kicking , screaming.....he manages to overpower me.....drags me past the couch my friend is on. Meanwhile no one moves to help me. This"man" drags me around the house, kicking and screaming and tosses me out the front door without a word. No help from my friend or anyone in the house
I am sorry if you are looking for all the detail of the rape but i am not willing to divulge every detail so here is a brief shot at it. I wake up in my friends bed, back to the door. The man I thought was my friend climbs into bed with me and asks for sex. Thinking he was my friend and not opening my eyes i said yes and he went to get a condom. He comes back in the room, i still have my eyes closed, falling back asleep and he is on top of me. I feel his face and open my eyes.....it wasnt my friend....my friend had a beard.I had never actually met this man before, he was one of the group that flew in sometime on Friday. I shoved this man off of me grabbed my pants and ran to the bathroom.
My mind is racing, did this just happen. What the hell did he think he was doing. He came home with no one, he knew I wasnt there for him what made him think he could just sneak into bed with me? Who does this?
I get my act together and get up enough courage to come out of the bathroom....I seem him, ass naked walking back into is room. He looks back at me with that crooked smile i will never forget. I mmedately attack my rapist. I am throwing punches, kicking , screaming.....he manages to overpower me.....drags me past the couch my friend is on. Meanwhile no one moves to help me. This"man" drags me around the house, kicking and screaming and tosses me out the front door without a word. No help from my friend or anyone in the house
The Day of The Rape Part 1
Friday 9/29/10- Mom and I enjoy a day by the pool. A few minutes after we went upstairs a storm rolls in. We can see it coming from the distance from our hotel room. Pretty cool to see from 32 floors up with an unobstructed view. My friend and I are texting on and off. He wants to know my last name, I make him tell me his first....and I reply with mine. I tell him i am looking forward to meeting up with him later and that Im considering having sex with him. (bold i know, but i really really liked this friend) Of course he thinks im joking, I assured him he had a good chance.) 2 or 3 more of the guys friends flew in today for the party.
Mom and I go to dinner on a block near bourbon. The food was amazing and the service was fantastic- we each had 2 drinks. Next we go to Pat Obriens for our usual Hurricane drink- we get one every time we visit.
We walk down Bourbon with the desitination of the blacksmith- we were never going to visit our drinks in time, so we sat on a porch and I showed her a youtube video i refer to as my "moment of Zen" I dont care who you are, but if you find the video on youtube of a 15 year old boy singing to Katy Perry's Teenage Dream, you will laugh your butt off.....and everytime you here her song on the radio you wont be able to hide your smile.
We sit and people watch a bit, theres a drunk group of guys aruing about whos going home and whos staying out.....ya know, the usual. We finish our drinks and head to the Blacksmith. Sitting there we enjoyed a beer, and watched the "moment of zen" again. Sang along to a little Tom Petty. I got us each another beer and we found another video of this kid, not as funny....but still funny. My friend from home was texting us. We were having a wit war.
Next from the blacksmith we went to Cats meow, we love that place- great atmosphere, great fun. We go on the balcony and throw beads at people...after a bit, my friend and his friends came walked by...hit them with some beads and let them have their boy time. Stayed throwing beads a bit with a bachelor party from Texas, then it was time travel. Next stop Tropical Isle
Mom and I both Grab a Grenade at the bottom bar and head to the stairs for the balcony.....closed, cant go up top. On our way back out my friend was there...mom started to get tired, her body was still recovering from the allergic reaction she had from 2 bee stings a few days before...lucky her, she now has to carry an epi pen everywhere she goes.... I walk mom back to the hotel, I tell my friend I will come back out to meet up with him.
I get mom back to the room and im back out on my way to walk to their house....this leads into Early Saturday Morning
Mom and I go to dinner on a block near bourbon. The food was amazing and the service was fantastic- we each had 2 drinks. Next we go to Pat Obriens for our usual Hurricane drink- we get one every time we visit.
We walk down Bourbon with the desitination of the blacksmith- we were never going to visit our drinks in time, so we sat on a porch and I showed her a youtube video i refer to as my "moment of Zen" I dont care who you are, but if you find the video on youtube of a 15 year old boy singing to Katy Perry's Teenage Dream, you will laugh your butt off.....and everytime you here her song on the radio you wont be able to hide your smile.
We sit and people watch a bit, theres a drunk group of guys aruing about whos going home and whos staying out.....ya know, the usual. We finish our drinks and head to the Blacksmith. Sitting there we enjoyed a beer, and watched the "moment of zen" again. Sang along to a little Tom Petty. I got us each another beer and we found another video of this kid, not as funny....but still funny. My friend from home was texting us. We were having a wit war.
Next from the blacksmith we went to Cats meow, we love that place- great atmosphere, great fun. We go on the balcony and throw beads at people...after a bit, my friend and his friends came walked by...hit them with some beads and let them have their boy time. Stayed throwing beads a bit with a bachelor party from Texas, then it was time travel. Next stop Tropical Isle
Mom and I both Grab a Grenade at the bottom bar and head to the stairs for the balcony.....closed, cant go up top. On our way back out my friend was there...mom started to get tired, her body was still recovering from the allergic reaction she had from 2 bee stings a few days before...lucky her, she now has to carry an epi pen everywhere she goes.... I walk mom back to the hotel, I tell my friend I will come back out to meet up with him.
I get mom back to the room and im back out on my way to walk to their house....this leads into Early Saturday Morning
The background
Early Saturday morning 9/25/2010-
Backstory- My mother and I arrive in New Orleans around 6 PM Thursday 9/24/2010- We get to dinner by 7:30
While finishing our dinner, a group of six men ask us to join them, we oblige and all enjoy a dinner of back and forth banter and witty remarks. (I will not identify these men, as my identity as the victim as been kept private.) These men were in town visiting and celebrating a bachelor party.
My mother and I hang out with these men the rest of the night. Myself and one of the men hit it off really well. I developed a quick crush. My mother and I walked back to the rental house with 3 of the men as the other three were off doing who knows what. We hang out at the house, I am thirsty and they have no glasses, just plstic pitchers, so i filled one up and used it as a glass. My friend had the hiccups for at least an hour....we tried everything to get rid of them....had a pretty good laugh about it. One of the boys is passed out on the couch...I get tired so I lay down in bed for a bit in the bedroom. The man that I hit it off with came in to lay down with me.....for purposes of this blog, he will be referred to as Friend as thats what he was. He wanted to have sex, I didn't we had just met. He was completely respectful of that and just held me in his arms- occasionally the people still awake in the house would peek in and make comments....so to egg them on we would pretend to be having sex....just making the noises, making everyone laugh. Finally, one of the other 3 men shows up, we get up and talk for a few minutes, he then goes to bed. My friend and I go back to bed and a little bit later the other 2 arrive- at this point everyone but the first friend to return is up and awake. We stand around and joke a bit- now a different man is passed out cold on the couch- boys being boys, the teabag the poor bastard and take pictures of it- Never be the first one passed out with a room full of people. im tired
I decide its time to go.
Mom and I make our way to our hotel, half way there she realizes she left her long sleeve shirt there. I tell her no worries. I plan on meeting back up with my friend Friday. We take a quick nap and then lounge by the pool all day
Backstory- My mother and I arrive in New Orleans around 6 PM Thursday 9/24/2010- We get to dinner by 7:30
While finishing our dinner, a group of six men ask us to join them, we oblige and all enjoy a dinner of back and forth banter and witty remarks. (I will not identify these men, as my identity as the victim as been kept private.) These men were in town visiting and celebrating a bachelor party.
My mother and I hang out with these men the rest of the night. Myself and one of the men hit it off really well. I developed a quick crush. My mother and I walked back to the rental house with 3 of the men as the other three were off doing who knows what. We hang out at the house, I am thirsty and they have no glasses, just plstic pitchers, so i filled one up and used it as a glass. My friend had the hiccups for at least an hour....we tried everything to get rid of them....had a pretty good laugh about it. One of the boys is passed out on the couch...I get tired so I lay down in bed for a bit in the bedroom. The man that I hit it off with came in to lay down with me.....for purposes of this blog, he will be referred to as Friend as thats what he was. He wanted to have sex, I didn't we had just met. He was completely respectful of that and just held me in his arms- occasionally the people still awake in the house would peek in and make comments....so to egg them on we would pretend to be having sex....just making the noises, making everyone laugh. Finally, one of the other 3 men shows up, we get up and talk for a few minutes, he then goes to bed. My friend and I go back to bed and a little bit later the other 2 arrive- at this point everyone but the first friend to return is up and awake. We stand around and joke a bit- now a different man is passed out cold on the couch- boys being boys, the teabag the poor bastard and take pictures of it- Never be the first one passed out with a room full of people. im tired
I decide its time to go.
Mom and I make our way to our hotel, half way there she realizes she left her long sleeve shirt there. I tell her no worries. I plan on meeting back up with my friend Friday. We take a quick nap and then lounge by the pool all day
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